No. 001 – Starting today
“If you’re working on something important, then you’ll never feel ready. A side effect of doing challenging work is that you’re pulled by excitement and pushed by confusion at the same time.” James Clear
I’ve heard it said time and time again, successful people start before they feel ready. We know that we need to get out of our comfort zone. To dare greatly. To take risks. We hear the talks and see the inspirational movies. We read the books and listen to the podcasts. But how do we actually do it?
Bravery, like all desirable traits, is something we work at developing. We aren’t born brave and it’s not something we can acquire overnight. I believe there are three main components required to overcoming our fears in a healthy, sustainable way. The first is better thinking by improving our mindset. Second is finding and utilizing the tools most effective for us. And the third is having good people in our corner. Let’s dig a bit deeper.
1 — Mindset
Our mindsets frame the running account that is taking place in our head, guiding the whole interpretation process. How we interpret challenges, setbacks, and criticism is our choice.
What we strive for and what we see as success are determined by our mindset. As Carol Dweck (author of Mindset) explains, a “fixed mindset” assumes that your character, intelligence, and creative ability are static givens which you cannot change in any meaningful way. That talent alone creates success — without effort. While a “growth mindset”, thrives on challenge and sees failure not as evidence of unintelligence but as a an opportunity for growth and stretching your existing abilities. Believing that your most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work — brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment and living a braver life.
Changing our mindset is not about picking up a few pointers here and there. It’s about seeing things in a new way. Learning how to make our mindset our greatest asset, changing our internal monologue.
2 — Tools
There are many powerful tools and methods out there to help encourage us to take action, change our behavior and work through the inevitable challenges and resistance we will face as we improve our mindset and push beyond our comfort zone. Very often, we have the “desire” to achieve something, but we don’t have the “determination” to go to the end. We expect to see improvements and results far too early. We want things now, if not yesterday.
The right tools can give us the necessary structure and enable us to practice techniques to the point of seeing results. Tools that work on both the physical and mental aspects required for bravery. Offering us accountability and insights. Because we don’t just want to learn about the plethora of tools out there, we want to find the tools that work best for us.
Check out the Bravery Training Toolkit
3 — People
We have heard it before: who we surround yourself with, we become. If we want to have growth in our life, we must surround ourselves with people that are pushing their limits. If we’re striving to be an authentic, fulfilled, honest, brave and principled person, we must surround ourselves with people who are doing the same. Find the people that support and encourage us to be brave. Being relentless when it comes to surrounding ourselves with those who bring out the best in us. Investing in those relationships because our direction in life depends on it. One of the great things about tech is that distance becomes less important. Let’s find and invest in the people, near and far, that are on a similar mission.
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together” African Proverb
Let’s team up together to support and encourage each other on our pursuits to be authentic, fulfilled, honest, brave and principled people. Life is tough but we don’t have to do it alone.
No matter where you are in the world and regardless of what you're working on, I hope you'll join the club and get out of your comfort zone today too.